The reason why I don’t share with you is because you don’t LISTEN.

There is a huge difference between listening & giving advice. When someone comes to you & says ”I would like to share”, that means sit back & listen. Should someone come to you & say “I would like your opinion on this” or “Can you help me?” then first listen & afterwards you may share & give advice.

I have always wondered why communication gets heavy or fired up between people. A conversation is initiated by the person who makes the first comment, right? As the person who is receiving the first line of communication, do you actually take note of what they are saying? Their first sentence being, “I would like to share something exciting.”

Cause if you did not, you have already lost the plot. So many relationships break up because of this.

This happened to me. I was excited & all I wanted was to share something that I just learned. In the end, our talk turned into a 30min speech on advice to me, around my topic. All of my excitement drained out of me & was replaced with a horrified what the @!#!

I politely left the room, calmed myself down & asked the question ‘What just happened?”

That is when I realized the difference between listening & giving advice. There is nothing wrong with advice. Only this time I did not want advice, all I wanted to do was share some of my new found excitement on what I have learned.

I have a huge tip for you today, sometimes all the other person wants you to do, is just listen. Relationships don’t only thrive on advice.